Those Four Letter Words
Rape, a four letter word. It may be one of the only four
letter words with such a heavy stone attached to it. Love, a four letter word
with an equally heavy stone attached to it. Isn’t it funny how both words are
of the same size, with the same depth yet both lead to such different chemical
reactions in the brain. Trust, a five-letter word. Related to both, yet in such
different ways. Makes you wonder what is true, why it is false and how.
“I was raped last night”, said the girl. The others stared
at her with disbelief etched on their faces. “Raped?” one spoke up. She stared
into space with a vacant look in her eyes. “Yes”, she whispered, not daring to
speak any louder. They gathered around her, advising her, comforting her, some
even insulting her. She stared on, trying to imagine yet failing in every step.
When he told his parents that he was raped, his mother cried for her son’s
manhood was now lost, his father stood up, slapped him on the face and the
walked away. The same deed, two genders, two different reactions.
Six months ago, she had told them that she was in love. He
was older than her, intelligent and the funniest person she had ever met. The
first time he hit her, she just sat in the corner and cried as he profusely
apologized. It was the first time but not the last. He told her that she was
his one and only, he gave her illusions of the perfect dream. They went out
last night, he promised her he would take care of her and she trusted him. The
first drink of her lifetime considered of a vodka shot, taken with hesitancy
but with the knowledge that she was with someone she could depend upon. They
laughed together for the first time in months and for that minute or so, she
was the happiest she could be. She woke up with the last thought she had had
the previous night, “everything is going to be alright.” Her body ached with a
pain she had not felt before, red and purple mountains covered her skin. She
felt herself, her clothes were missing, the joint between her legs were
paining, and he was beside her. She had no recollection of getting there. His
eyes were open, distorted and scared. He began to yell at her, telling her that
she had asked for it. Slowly, his fists began to talk more than his tongue and
by the time he left, she could not move. Getting up slowly, she walked to the
shower. The hot water scalded her, the cold water burned. She cried silently,
not knowing what to do and so she went to her friends who cared for her until
she said who had hurt her. They backed away immediately.
“You must have consented! He just isn’t the type to do this
sort of thing”, one cried. “I was the one in the relationship with him” she
smiled to herself. “I know but you did say that you love him so it’s okay isn’t
it?” came the reply. She stared at the owner of the voice, disbelief written on
her face. She walked away; her steps
were measured yet steady.
Love and rape, two words so distinctly different from each other
that people tend to forget about the fact that there can be a connection
between the two. They loved each other, she a little more. He forgot for a minute,
for an unforgivable minute. That changed it all, yet nothing changed.
A different part of the city, the same circumstance yet a
different story was being told. The age was the same, the species the same yet
the only difference between the two was the sex organ and gender. He was
laughed at, ridiculed and told that his manhood has been stripped away because
only wimps can be raped. Men love sex, men want sex, and sex is an animal
instinct. A man cannot be raped. The first time she touched him, he was writing
his mid term paper. Her hand brushed against his shoulder as she walked past
him, checking on the students to see if they were cheating. He ignored it,
thinking it was a mistake. The second time, she groped him while passing by. He
knew it wasn’t a mistake this time. He tried to tell his mother, she told him
to ignore it, that these things happen. When he went to his father, his father
told him to “deal with it like a man.” He knew that something was wrong in the
drink the moment he drunk it. It was children’s day and the teachers were
treating the students. He staggered home, holding on to electricity poles. He
knew he shouldn’t have gotten into the car but she was his teacher and he knew
he wouldn’t have been able to reach home any other way. He saw her through a
haze; she took off his shirt, reached into his pants. The next thing he
remembered, he was lying on the front steps of his house. He staggered in; the
realization of what happened to him came later.
His mother cried the entire night. He could hear her from
his bedroom. His father stormed in to his room at three in the morning. “You
will forget about it. You will move on! Nothing happened. You will never repeat
what you have said today to anybody under any circumstances.” He nodded numbly.
The next day he went to school. She stood there teaching, not looking at him in
his eye. He wept in the shower that day, silently shaking but when he came out,
his eyes were dry. “I am a man”, he told himself.
Trust, the basis of any relationship. Trust, the cause of
any hurt. The relationship of trust to those two four letter words is unlike
each other yet each bond manages to come together into the most horrifying
manner. The distinctiveness of each relationship is lost, only an ugly and terrifying
connection is left.
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